A Reason to be Thankful...
Holidays have changed a lot for my family in the recent years. My brother now has his own family, so we're not always together...but this year, our entire family was around for Thanksgiving and we had a great time together...AND...my boyfriend finally met my family this weekend. Nervous is an understatement for how I was feeling, but I knew that we needed to take this step in our relationship and it turned out pretty good. My father did some joking...my mom was just her normal self...and my brother was, well, he was the typical BIG brother,but S. handled it really well. In those moments that he and I shared together with my family yesterday, I realized that in him I've found a wonderful person for whom I should be thankful.
Until the next time, I'll continue to travel along this journey of love...
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Saturday, November 10, 2007
Learning to Love...
...that's what I'm doing these days. I decided in the years after undergrad that I didn't want to get married. Marriage just seemed too hard for most of the couples around me (thus likely too hard for me too). After watching unhappy people simply enduring marriage, I made a decision to never live in a miserable marriage for the sake of maintaining a certain image among my circle of family and friends. For me, this decision meant that I'd never get married...but time and circumstances change even our most passionate life decisions sometimes. This seems to be the case for me.
I met a wonderful guy about 6 months ago and I couldn't be happier. Unfortunately, I struggle to share my happiness with him at times...not because he's not special, rather because I made a decision to avoid all levels of emotional intimacy and I made a decision to not love. Obviously, these behaviors are not conducive to a successful relationship, so I'm back to learning to love. A friend sent me an article (from cnn.com) recently that helped me better understand on some level why it's so difficult for individuals to express their emotions when i comes to love. The article, Throw yourself into intimacy and take the leap into love!, talks about the reasons why falling in love is at times a difficult thing to accept. It also talks about ways to overcome this fear of falling in love. So...this article has pushed me to take the leap into love...I'm scared, but I can't imagine my life without S. That means learning to open up and love again for me. Have you assessed your ability to love lately??
Check out the article if you get a chance: http://www.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/personal/10/12/o.overs.leap/index.html?iref=newssearch
...that's what I'm doing these days. I decided in the years after undergrad that I didn't want to get married. Marriage just seemed too hard for most of the couples around me (thus likely too hard for me too). After watching unhappy people simply enduring marriage, I made a decision to never live in a miserable marriage for the sake of maintaining a certain image among my circle of family and friends. For me, this decision meant that I'd never get married...but time and circumstances change even our most passionate life decisions sometimes. This seems to be the case for me.
I met a wonderful guy about 6 months ago and I couldn't be happier. Unfortunately, I struggle to share my happiness with him at times...not because he's not special, rather because I made a decision to avoid all levels of emotional intimacy and I made a decision to not love. Obviously, these behaviors are not conducive to a successful relationship, so I'm back to learning to love. A friend sent me an article (from cnn.com) recently that helped me better understand on some level why it's so difficult for individuals to express their emotions when i comes to love. The article, Throw yourself into intimacy and take the leap into love!, talks about the reasons why falling in love is at times a difficult thing to accept. It also talks about ways to overcome this fear of falling in love. So...this article has pushed me to take the leap into love...I'm scared, but I can't imagine my life without S. That means learning to open up and love again for me. Have you assessed your ability to love lately??
Check out the article if you get a chance: http://www.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/personal/10/12/o.overs.leap/index.html?iref=newssearch
Thursday, November 01, 2007
A Journey through November…
Some of my friends have created lists of 101 things they’d like to accomplish in 1,001 days. I was working on something similar….100 things I’d like to do before I die…however, I think I work better when dealing with short term goals. So, I’ve decided that each month I shall embark upon a new (and hopefully), challenging journey. I’m not suggesting that every month the journey will be focused on achieving some crazy goal, rather each month’s journey will focus on doing things that make me a better overall person and push me closer to my destiny.
So what’s in store for November…
Well, November marks the beginning of the season of thankfulness. One of the things that I am most grateful for is my life, so this month I am challenging myself to focus on just that, my life. I think one of the best ways to live life to the fullest in to take care of our health (mental, physical, and spiritual). Over the past few months, I’ve found myself so busy that I’ve put my personal needs on the bottom of my priority list. This isn’t the true desire of my heart; it’s simply the place that I now find myself in. I know for myself that this must change if I am to maintain my sanity on my job, amongst my peers, and around my family. I’m also looking to my future and feel very strongly that I need to engage in healthier behaviors now so that I will be able to provide for my own family in the future.
So, here’s to the beginning of a new journey…
November Goals
Goal #1: Go to the gym at least 5 days/week.
Goal #2: Increase the number of healthy foods I consume and track what I eat daily.
Goal #3: Spend quality time in prayer at least twice daily.
Goal #4: Express my thoughts in writing at least once per week.
Some of my friends have created lists of 101 things they’d like to accomplish in 1,001 days. I was working on something similar….100 things I’d like to do before I die…however, I think I work better when dealing with short term goals. So, I’ve decided that each month I shall embark upon a new (and hopefully), challenging journey. I’m not suggesting that every month the journey will be focused on achieving some crazy goal, rather each month’s journey will focus on doing things that make me a better overall person and push me closer to my destiny.
So what’s in store for November…
Well, November marks the beginning of the season of thankfulness. One of the things that I am most grateful for is my life, so this month I am challenging myself to focus on just that, my life. I think one of the best ways to live life to the fullest in to take care of our health (mental, physical, and spiritual). Over the past few months, I’ve found myself so busy that I’ve put my personal needs on the bottom of my priority list. This isn’t the true desire of my heart; it’s simply the place that I now find myself in. I know for myself that this must change if I am to maintain my sanity on my job, amongst my peers, and around my family. I’m also looking to my future and feel very strongly that I need to engage in healthier behaviors now so that I will be able to provide for my own family in the future.
So, here’s to the beginning of a new journey…
November Goals
Goal #1: Go to the gym at least 5 days/week.
Goal #2: Increase the number of healthy foods I consume and track what I eat daily.
Goal #3: Spend quality time in prayer at least twice daily.
Goal #4: Express my thoughts in writing at least once per week.
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